Progress not Perfection

A while ago I met with a stay-at-home mom who desperately wanted to get her life and home in order. She had two young girls, a third on the way, and a hard-working, loving husband. She felt like no matter what she did – it was never enough. 

I realized in a few minutes that her assessment was correct. The expectations that she placed on herself dripped in perfectionism, and therefore her attempts would never be enough. I knew without evidence that her Pinterest boards were overflowing, comparisons were high, and she clung to the web of proving her worth to herself and others.

I paused and took a deep breath, giving her the freedom to do the same, and stated; it does not have to be perfect. She cried most of our time together, and the more we talked, the freer she became.

What is this ugly thing, perfectionism? It strangles and paralyzes us from reaching goals. It says, do it perfectly or do not do it. How completely absurd and against our humanity. Be it fitness, diet, hobbies, relationships, work, etc. Perfectionism taunts, you ate a cookiethrow in the towel.

We put these limits on ourselves, you know. The fight is with our minds, and we are our worst enemy. I encourage you today: progress – not perfection. A little bit at a time, every day, pays significant dividends. 

The key to killing perfectionism is simple yet, difficult. Love yourself. There is no other way.

What can you do right now toward your goal? Forget what you did yesterday or an hour ago. Right now, set a 15-minute timer and do something. Then love yourself enough to do it again.

Progress – not perfection.

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”

Theodore Roosevelt

I help individuals and families build routines, bust roadblocks, and reach goals. Message me for a personal consultation.

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