Evening, July 18, 2022

Evening, July 18, 2022

I am able to move and use my arm more and more. I work it daily, pushing the range of motion, stretching out the tautness and attempting to build back muscle. My leg, however, seems to be in stalemate. Not getting worse, but not improving either. I am unable to walk correctly. I hobble around, especially without shoes, and I struggle to descend the stairs.

I hope that one day it will all improve. I keep reminding myself I saved my arm. I could have lost my elbow and use of my hand. I was brave. I am proud of myself for facing the surgery, as this is no easy task.

I dislike limitations. I dislike hearing I can’t do something from someone, some thing, or from my own body. I also dislike when random men message me and act creepy. Blocked. And when I allow myself to raise my voice at my daughter. Stopped. All in a Monday.

I feel a lightness about me. If I equated myself to water, I would be a small stream gently flowing. I’m at ease and peaceful. I love the quiet, the silence. Sometimes more than others; this is one of those times.

Wherever you are, I hope you can find a moment of silence. Even if it is just a few minutes, and even if you have to struggle and force yourself to sit quietly and breathe. Silence is a friend that eventually reaps the reward of peace.

Sending love 💞,


Let me know in the comments what you are celebrating or struggling with today. ✨ 🙏

This is what happened to me: Surgery, Bones, and Building

Visit Zapata Falls in Mosca Colorado

While most of the world quarantined, I adventure; braving the pandemic, drive, and inaccessibility to food, to visit Colorado in June 2020. One trip led me to visit the beautiful Zapata Falls located in Mosca, Colorado. 


Mosca, Colorado is located in Alamosa County in southern Colorado, roughly mid-state. It sits at an elevation of 7,559′ above sea level. For comparison, Denver, the mile-high city, is situated at 5,280′. 

You will find little in the way of entertainment in this sleepy Rocky mountain pass, but you will discover nature opportunities galore. The main attraction is the Great Sand Dunes National Park, located on Highway 150.

It is worth stopping three miles south of the entrance to the National Park for this family-friendly hike up to Zapata Falls. The hardest part about this excursion is not the hike itself but the car ride to get there. Once leaving the main road, there is a 3.5-mile brutal, gravel pitted car ride to reach the parking lot and trailhead. We found ample parking and restrooms available. Both the hike and parking are free. 


The hike itself is a .8-mile one-way hike, made up of flat dirt with some rocky terrain and an exquisite view of the San Luis Valley and the Great Sand Dunes. Surprisingly, the trail was full of people. As we neared the end, the roar of the waterfall grew louder. We kept trekking through ankle and knee-deep water. Crawling over, on top, and around slippery rocks and crowds of people. We finally reached the crevice of the mountain and were able to peer into the gorge to see the beauty of the falls. 

Tip: Take water shoes and prepare to get wet. The water depth depends on the weather and time of year – it may even be frozen!

Lodging: There are a few lodging options near the falls. You can find mid-range hotels in Alamosa, Colorado located 45 min from the park. Camping is also an option. There is a small state-owned campground at the falls that offers 23 primitive sites at an extremely affordable rate plus a couple other nearby campgrounds.

Attractions Close to Zapata Falls

• NPS-Great Sand Dunes National Park and Preserve.  

• USFS-Rio Grande National Forest and Sangre de Cristo Wilderness.

• BLM-Blanca Wetlands Recreation Area.

• USFWS-Baca and Alamosa National Wildlife Refuges.

• Great Sand Dunes Oasis-Restaurant, gift shop, and lodge (near GRSA Park entrance).

• Ft. Garland Museum and Cultural Center.

• Colorado Gators Reptile Park.

• UFO Watchtower.

• Sand Dunes Hot Springs Pool.

Other Nearby Campgrounds: Pinyon Flats CG, Great Sand Dunes NPP

Enjoy your trip to Mosca, Colorado and Zapata Falls!

Today I Am a Writer

They say to be a good writer, I must write every day, regardless if I want to or not. They say it separates the hobbyists from the skilled workers. The professionals from the amateurs. The women from the girls.

I do write every day. In my journal. All-day long. I scribble thoughts, then a bit of overheard conversation, a line from a book, a lyric that touched my soul. I must examine later why it touched my soul.

I write with purpose, it is my lifeblood, but I do not write to publish. And when faced with the arduous task of writing to publish, it gets sticky, like glue covers my mind and words. I don’t know what to write. My grammar sounds off and awkward, and who would want to read any of this anyhow? Those kinds of thoughts march through my head, one by one. Like the ants on the sidewalk that I dodged on my morning walk. The red ones.

I will change, I tell myself. I will let down these thick, protective walls and publish the damn thing. How hard can it be to tap a little icon? Tap it. It can be tough when that icon reads, publish now. Then you expose a very you, and a very true side of you, to the world.

I’ve lived long enough to know that most people don’t care. Selfish creatures we are, occupied with own our lives. Let’s face it – it should be that way. Today on Dr. Wayne Dyer’s podcast, a woman asked, “what is the greatest thing we can do to help others?” He replied: live your life fully and be a role model.

So, it is normal and healthy to be busy with ourselves. In living free, we set others free. In loving ourselves, we love others. But we also desire the best for those around us, and we are willing to serve in whatever capacity we can. We live free, and we ask, how can I serve?

But back to the daily grind, the daily writing, a daily outlet of servitude. Why must, at times, it feel like a chore, and at other times feel like I have reached the pinnacle, where my gifts and callings collide within me. I do not like this ride.

Writing is a treacherous and dangerous thing. It is annoying and disturbing and sometimes dark, yet, it seems to bring light to the world. And reason out of chaos. And shape nations, minds, and moments.

Turn on a song, would you, and get lost in the lyrics. A writer did that. Most likely a poet. A human who sat at their keyboard and went deep within to find the right words. They proclaimed: today I am a skilled worker – not a hobbyist, a professional – not an amateur, a woman – not a girl. Today, I am a writer.

Psycho-Cybernetics Book Review

Title: Psycho-Cybernetics Updated and Expanded
Published: 1960. Updated and expanded, 2015
Author: Maxwell Maltz, MD, FICS
Genre: Non-fiction / Self-Help
Page count: 310

Self-image shapes our personality, happiness, and success. We can change our self-image thereby changing our future. The way we do this is to give our brains, which operate somewhat like machines, the correct data. Maltz relates this idea to programming a missile to hit a target. The missile will aim for the set location and will correct itself several times in route to stay on course.

We program our brains by visualizing desires until we have the feeling of success. Our brains do not know the difference and will kick in and act accordingly. While striving toward our goals, we will correct course several times as we learn. But when the brain has the correct data, we will reach our desired destination.

Maltz, a plastic surgeon by trade, uses medical, scientific, and case studies from his practice to prove the life-changing effects of his methods. He then lays out how to apply these methods to real-life situations.


I was surprised to find a Christian undertone and worldview in this book. Maltz sprinkles Biblical scriptures and teachings to strengthen theories or ideas about the human psyche. 

  • There seems to be unnecessary repetition of ideas.
  • If you are not comfortable with Christian references then small parts of this book may not sit well with you.
  • I suggest setting aside an ample amount of time to read this book as some chapters call for a reread to grasp the concepts and applications.
The Take-Away:

Psycho-Cybernetics has stood the test of time for a reason. I recommend this book to anyone serious about changing the trajectory of their life. It extends hope in situations that may seem out of control. I find the few religious references to be encouraging and life-giving and fit well within the text.

You will finish this book armed with immediate and practical applications. Many well-known self-help gurus have built their work on the writings of Maxwell Maltz. Not surprising, as over 35 million copies of Psycho-cybernetics have sold worldwide. 

Readers Reviews:

“Dude, love that book! It has done wonders for me.” – SV

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Surgery Follow-up

4-month surgery follow-up at #mayo is complete! The bone is healed, no sign of tumor, and I’m encouraged to do aggressive therapy! I’m incredibly thankful for the help & love from so many people in my life. ❤️ I couldn’t have gotten through this without you. Let’s go 2022! ✨💪🏼

3 Reasons Why Texas Homes Don’t Have Basements

I’m a midwest gal, and there’s nothing quite as cozy as cuddling up in a dark, cool basement. Where else would we have family movie nights, tornado “parties, ” and shoot pool? And then I moved to Texas. You might be asking as I did; where are the basements??

Basements are not in most Texas homes. Here are three reasons why:

Texas homes don’t have basements because of the soil

Compared to the soft, dry soil of the northern states, Texas soil is typically clay or limestone. Clay changes composition often, so it isn’t stable. Limestone is too hard to cut through. It is more workable and cost-efficient to add the square footage up and out rather than down. 

Texas homes don’t have basements because of the frost line

Builders pour foundations below the frost line, which up north is 5-6′ below ground; this makes it easy and inexpensive to add a basement. The frost line in Texas is only about 1′ below ground. The builders don’t need to dig deeper, so why add unnecessary work and expense.

Texas homes don’t have basements because of the water table

The water table is the level below which the ground is saturated with water. In Texas, this is only a few feet below ground, making texas basements susceptible to flooding. The cost to prevent flooding and buy flood insurance is too high to be worth it for most buyers.

texas state shape with home written across it in cursive

I still itch to hide in a basement, especially when blasted by crazy Texas storms. But, living here makes up for that loss in several other ways. Did you have a basement in your hometown? Share in the comments below!

For more articles related to moving and Texas check out:

5 Easy Ways to Make Friends in a New City and Texas Replaces Vehicles with Horses Amid Gas Price Spike




Christian Pastor Preaches Jesus is the Way to Heaven

All eyes are on a particular pulpit this week, as a Christian pastor preached Jesus is the only way to heaven.

The pastor, who wishes to stay anonymous, hopes to redefine Christianity in America to: Those who believe in Jesus Christ and follow his teachings. But many in the Christian church disagree.

“Blasphemy,” said one church elder. “We didn’t hire him to preach nonsense.” “Outrageous!” agreed another. “A complete embarrassment to our faith and organization. Where did he get this ridiculous notion?”

Sources close to the pastor say he might have gotten this bizarre idea from the Bible.

Today, congregants introduced a petition to remove the pastor for his heinous crime. It appears, though, he will not go without a fight. A plan is in the works to appeal to the denominational conference, but officials say it will only lead to a dead-end. The Bishop’s recent announcement – Jesus is not the literal son of God- leaves little hope for one weary man.

Cast your vote!

5 Unique Places to Visit in Frisco, Texas

Frisco, Texas. This bustling metropolitan north of Dallas is one of the fastest-growing cities in the country, bursting at the seams with opportunity, and entertainment is no exception.

Y’all, check out these five unique places to visit in Frisco.

1. Frisco Heritage Center

At one time, the area now known as Frisco was just a wagon stop along the Shawnee Trail. Discover this rich history and more at the Frisco Heritage Center. This 16,000 sq ft museum showcases the early days of this wild west town through indoor and outdoor exhibits, original memorabilia, restored architecture, and interactive fun. Stroll through an old church, sit at a desk at a schoolhouse, and peer behind bars inside a replicated jail cell. Visit the Frisco Heritage Center to learn the history of the town you will be proud to call home.

Old buildings with windmill at Frisco Heritage Center

2. The Star

Yes, everything is bigger in Texas. This 91-acre campus, opened in 2016, is home to the Dallas Cowboys World Headquarters and practice facility. Take a tour of all things Cowboys, throw a ball around the 50-yard turf field, watch movies on the larger-than-life screen, dine, shop, drink and relax at the district or watch football in action at the Ford Center. The Star has something for everyone in the family.

3. National Video Game Museum

The National Video Game Museum is 10,400 sq ft of family fun, combining video game artifacts and memorabilia with hands-on play. Visitors take a journey through the history of video games, from conception to the present, with consoles dating back to the 1950s, home computers, a 1980s style arcade, video game prototypes, and much more. Don’t miss this acclaimed museum after your move to Frisco.

4. Burkman Holiday Home

For an eye-popping, cozy Christmas activity, drive-by or walk-by the Burkman Holiday Home, located in West Frisco’s residential neighborhood, Rivendale on the Lake. Take part in this holiday extravaganza that has delighted families and charities for over 20 years. Expect long lines for this once-a-year treat!

People looking at Christmas lights at the BurkmanHoliday home in Frisco, Texas.


Snuggle up in the front of a personal fire at this unique find tucked away in Frisco’s Rail District. This locally owned wine bar and kitchen won Living Magazine’s Readers Choice Award for Best Wine Bar and Best Patio in 2019. Drop-in for a glass or two, a craft beer, and an array of appetizers and entrees. Check out the full schedule of live music to enjoy while you dine. Reservations recommended!

Thank you for visiting The Jar!

For more Frisco fun and original images, follow: VisitFrisco.com and Friscotexas.gov

Cover Photo by Nancy Jo Lambert on Unsplash

I’m Bringing Vintage Slang Back. Those Modern Words Don’t know How to Act.

Listen, if our society needs anything right now, it’s these words returned to our vocabulary. Are you with me? Let’s make it happen.

I shared this tale in Don’t be a Florence and Other Vintage Dating Advice that Should be Used Today. This is how proper gals act out on the town.

ICYMI – Here’s the completely-made-up-except-for-the-true-parts, story

My friend here in pink, she’s the Real McCoy, I tell ya. I’m the jane in black, showing my gams. Some take me for a moll, and I think that’s the bee’s knees.

We hit this juice joint, and it was the cat’s meow. There we sat, upright and pretty in case some bo was watching. Yea, we’re a couple of hoofers, but no one knew it. We sipped our giggle water, a tad too much for proper gals, and enjoyed all that jazz!

We tried to not be a Florence, with our eager eyes, but we hoped to run into a sheik or a flyboy. We met a couple of cake-eaters all right. We plopped right down on their laps and gave them our full attention. Naturally, we over thirty dames are desperate to land a man.

We sure were a hotsy-totsy couple of owls, alright. My friend wants to visit that gin-mill again. And how!

Check out these 1920s slang definitions:

For more dating tips and advice, visit Dating Rules for Women in the Apocalypse and 10 Dating Tips from Her to Him!

  • Real McCoy – The genuine article
  • Jane: A woman
  • Gams: A woman’s legs
  • Moll: Mobster’s Girlfriend
  • Bee’s knees: An extraordinary person, thing, or idea
  • Juice Joint – a speakeasy
  • Cat’s meow: Something splendid or stylish
  • Bo: Pal, buster, fellow
  • Hoofer: Dancer
  • Giggle water: Liquor
  • Sheik: A man with sex appeal
  • Fly boy – a glamorous term for an aviator
  • Cake-eater: A ladies’ man
  • Dame: Woman
  • Hotsy-totsy: Pleasing
  • Owl – a person who’s out late
  • Gin mill: Bar
  • And How – I strongly agree!

Thanks for stopping by The Jar! ❤️



Don’t be a Florence and Other Vintage Dating Advice That Should Be Used Today

Dating is hard, but no wonder! We’re doing it all wrong, well, us women anyway. Stick around to the end of this post for a tale about how proper women act out on the town.

Follow these Vintage Dating Tips to Find your Perfect Modern Partner.

1. Don’t sit in awkward positions & look bored

Man and woman on a date talking from the 1930s, black and white

Who do you think you are, woman, sitting weird and looking bored. For the love of men, get yourself together. #imintrouble #thendontbeboring

2. Don’t be a careless woman

Man and woman dancing in 1930s

Careless women never appeal to gentlemen. Don’t talk while dancing, for when a man dances, he wants to dance. #iwannadancewithsomebody 🤐

3. Obey the man-lap rules, naturally

Advice to young girls about dating from 1916.

Only sit in a man’s lap if invited, unless over 30, thus, desperate. Then, by all means, find a lap. 👀 #whotheycallingdesperate

4. Men deserve our full attention


Did he do anything to earn attention? Doesn’t matter; he deserves it. Why? Because he’s a he, of course. Give the man what he deserves.

5. Don’t be a Florence

Vintage photo of a girl flirting with two boys.

Now presenting a completely-made-up-except-for-the-true-parts tale about how proper women act out on the town.

two women dressed in 1920s attire at a party

My friend here in pink, she’s the Real McCoy, I tell ya. I’m the jane in black, showing my gams. Some take me for a moll, and I think that’s the bee’s knees.

We hit this juice joint, and it was the cat’s meow. There we sat, upright and pretty, in case some bo was watching. Yea, we’re a couple of hoofers, but no one knew it. We sipped our giggle water, a tad too much for proper gals, and enjoyed all that jazz!

We tried to not be a Florence with our eager eyes, but we hoped to run into a sheik or a flyboy. We met a couple of cake-eaters, all right. We plopped right down on their laps and gave them our full attention. Naturally, we over thirty dames are desperate to land a man.

We sure were a hotsy-totsy couple of owls, alright. My friend wants to visit that gin-mill again. And how!

Confused? Get a wiggle on over to I’m Bringing Vintage Slang Back. Those Other Words Don’t Know How to Act for these 1920s slang definitions – let’s bring them back!

For more dating tips and advice visit: 8 Dating Rules for Women in the Apocalypse and 10 Dating Tips from Her to Him. Thank you for your support! ❤️

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